Resources
For crisis situations:
If you, or someone you know, are experiencing emotional distress or a mental health crisis, please reach out to any of the following resources.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
1-800-273- TALK (8255)
Crisis Text Line:
Text MN to 741741 or visit: https://www.crisistextline.org/
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Call or Text 988
Chat at https://988lifeline.org
Suicide loss websites:
Contact Dr. Deb Semmelroth at drdeb@selahgrief.net
Monthly online support group and in-person support group located in Duluth, MN
Other online support groups
https://www.ericshouse.org/ (located in AZ, focus on drug overdose, suicide, and alcohol-related deaths)
They have a listserv - active nationally and they share information
Defense Suicide Prevention Office
If you or someone you know is in crisis, contact the Veteran/Military Crisis Line for immediate assistance. Dial 988 then press 1
The Jed Foundation (for college-age population)
The Trevor Project (focus on LGBTQ youth)
Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (supports military families)
Coalition of Clinician Survivors
Specifically for clinicians who have experienced the suicide loss of a client or family member (support groups available as well)
Minnesota Suicide Prevention State Plan - MN Dept. of Health 2023-2027 (postvention is part of this plan as well)
Other websites:
Brighter Days Family Grief Center (located in Eden Prairie, MN)
Free services, including legal consultation and support groups
Pet Loss Grief Support Community Resources at Rainbow Bridge
David Kessler’s peer support training and online support groups
Suicide Loss Books:
Finding your way after the suicide of someone you love. Biebnel, D. & Foster, S. (2005). Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.
Standing in the shadow: Help and encouragement for suicide survivors. Cerza-Kolf, J. (2002). Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books.
Grief after suicide: Understanding the consequences and caring for the survivors. Jordan, J. (2014). New York, NY: Taylor & Francis Grp. (research-based and academic)
Bruised & wounded: Struggling to Understand Suicide. Rolheiser, R. (2018). (author is a priest)
Understanding your suicide grief: Ten touchstones for finding hope and healing your heart. Wolfelt, A. (2009). Fort Collins, CO: Companion Press (added is a journal & support group facilitation guide)
Lament for a Son. Wolterstorff, N. (1987) (Grand Rapids, MI: Wm. Eerdman Publishing; ISBN 978-0802802941)
Non-suicide loss grief books:
Saturday night widows: The adventures of six friends remaking their lives. Aikman, B. (2013). New York: Crown Pub.
A nice novel about six newly bereaved widows - addressing some tough issues through the beauty of a story and would be helpful for the right person
It’s OK that you’re NOT OK: Meeting grief and loss in a culture that doesn’t understand. Devine, M. (2017). Boulder, CO: Sounds True.
Motherless Daughter. Edelman, H. (2014).
Yoga for grief and loss. Helbert, K. (2016). London: UK
Unattended sorrow: Recovering from loss and reviving the heart. Levine, S. (2019). Rhinebeck, NY: Monkfish Book Pub.
Beautifully written
Attachment-informed grief therapy: The clinician's guide to foundations and applications. Kosminsky, P. & Joran, J. (2016) New York, NY: Routledge.
Academic
From grief to healing: A holistic guide to rebuilding mind, body, & spirit after loss. Mackenzie, A. (2022). Woodbury, MN: Llewellyn Pub.
Merin and her very bright star: A story of resiliency. Mier, L. (2021) Independently published/New Beginnings.
A beautiful book for children’s grief - nice read to children
Techniques of grief therapy: Assessment and intervention. Neimeyer, R. (Ed). (2016). New York, NY: Routledge
Excellent academic text
Mindfulness & grief: With guided meditations to calm your mind and restore your spirit. Stang, H. (2018). New York, NY: CICO Books
Has some nice guided meditations
Finding meaning: The sixth stage of grief. Kessler, D. (2019). New York, NY: Simon & Schuster.
Also has a Facebook page titled Grief: Releasing pain, remembering love, and finding meaning.
Lament for a son. Wolterstorff, N. (1987) Eerdmans Publishing.
Beautifully written - I received this book and savored it
Neuroscience of Grief Books:
The grieving brain: The surprising science of how we learn from love and loss. O’Connor, M.F. (2022). New York, NY: Harper-Collins Pub.
Excellent author - has many podcasts
Child loss:
MISS Foundation (Dr. Cacciatore)
Loss of baby
For parents, siblings and grandparents
Children's Grief Websites:
For children and families
Child loss books:
Bearing the unbearable: Love, loss, and the heartbreaking path of grief. Cacciatore, J. (2017). Somerville, MA: Wisdom Pub.
My favorite
Choosing to see. Chapman, B. (2010). Grand Rapids, MI: Revell Pub.
Christian focus
What God is honored here? Gibney, S & Yang, KK., Ed. (2019) Mpls, MN: U of MN Press.
Beautiful writings on miscarriage and infant loss by and for Native women and women of color
Sibling Loss:
Rock on: Mining for joy in the deep river of sibling grief. Casey, S. (2020).
Trauma:
The heart of trauma: Healing the embodied brain in the context of relationships. Badenoch, B. (2018). New York, NY: W.W. Norton & Company.
Trauma and the struggle to open up: From avoidance to recovery and growth. Muller, R. (2018). New York, NY: W.W. Norton & Company.
For clinicians - well done and keeps one’s interest from front to back
The post-traumatic growth guidebook. Schwartz, A. (2020). Eau Claire, WI: PESI Pub.
One of my favorite people - she also has a blog that is excellent
Podcasts:
Facing Our Grief - All There Is with Anderson Cooper
Beautiful podcast episode
Untethered: Healing the Pain from a Sudden Death
A promising set of guests being interviewed
Movies:
The Rabbit Hole (2010). Starring Nicole Kidman - on child loss
64 Movies About Grief and Loss
Offers a collection of old and new suggested by their audience
Grief Education:
Center for Loss and Life Transition (Dr. Wolfelt)
Classes held in CO & AZ
Center for Prolonged Grief Disorder
Section for professionals as well as clients
Cost to join is $50/year. excellent webinars (CEUs) and information
Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC)
May receive CEUs & certification
Portland Institute for Loss and Transition
Excellent researched based education. May receive CEUs as well as certifications
What's your grief (resource by professionals)
The Surgeon General's Call to Action to Implement the National Strategy for Suicide Prevention
Video: Loss, Grief, and the Quest for Meaning | TAPS Institute
Becoming Grief-Informed: A Call to Action
Excellent paper authored by Schuuram & Mitchell (2020)
COVID-19 Loss:
Helping health professionals & scholars identify people suffering from COVID-19 grief. Includes an assessment scale as well.
Misc.:
Interesting analogy of looking at what we hope for and what may happen in grief if we seek
Trauma Informed Care
My son died not only because of depression and substance abuse, but, ultimately, suicide. He took his own life. That statement by itself is tough to say freely as it stops one in their words. It really is a challenge coming to grips with this reality.
Each person progresses in their own time as they journey. The trauma of a sudden loss weighs heavy on the body, mind, and soul. Often, feeling the incessant need to ask “why” while knowing those answers are limited. This asking does not stop, it continues while one searches for answers, and this is perfectly normal in traumatic grief. The sequence of events are examined from all angles as one carries on in this search. It is likened to putting a puzzle together as each piece is thoroughly reviewed not only individually, but how it fits in the bigger puzzle. This ongoing activity provides a way to possibly solve something, but more importantly, it becomes a way to speak of the loss in a constructive way. A way that feels safer somehow.
Each of us becomes a helper in the process. As a hotdish arrives, the survivors can gather and feel cared for by humanity, especially when their worlds have been shattered. So, as I received a wild rice hotdish, the beauty of the world was seen in small “bites.” Each time the world and the people around us offer nurturing, I feel loved, sad, and devastated yet cared for. It’s amazing how those moments shaped the grief journey.